Killer Diseases of Social Life and How to Protect, Dr. Emdad Khan

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Killer Diseases of Social Life and How to Protect, Dr. Emdad Khan

Backbiting and slandering is an evil deed that ruins the social relationships and destroys the good deeds of the backbiter, destroys unity & solidarity. Backbiting is when say behind someone which will offend him when he knows it.

Messenger of Allah said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have also slandered

 

Let us see what our creator says about back biting

وَيۡلٌ۬ لِّڪُلِّ هُمَزَةٍ۬ لُّمَزَةٍ (١) سُوۡرَةُ الهُمَزة

Woe to every slanderer and backbiter. [] (104.1)

يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ لَا يَسۡخَرۡ قَوۡمٌ۬ مِّن قَوۡمٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُونُواْ خَيۡرً۬ا مِّنۡہُمۡ وَلَا نِسَآءٌ۬ مِّن نِّسَآءٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيۡرً۬ا مِّنۡہُنَّ‌ۖ وَلَا تَلۡمِزُوٓاْ أَنفُسَكُمۡ وَلَا تَنَابَزُواْ بِٱلۡأَلۡقَـٰبِ‌ۖ بِئۡسَ ٱلِٱسۡمُ ٱلۡفُسُوقُ بَعۡدَ ٱلۡإِيمَـٰنِ‌ۚ وَمَن لَّمۡ يَتُبۡ فَأُوْلَـٰٓٮِٕكَ هُمُ ٱلظَّـٰلِمُونَ سُوۡرَةُ الحُجرَات

O you who believe! Let not a people ridicule/ laugh at another people, it may be that the latter are better than the former; Nor let (some) women ridicule/ laugh at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former, Nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it, to insult one’s brother after having Faith And whosoever does not repent, then such are indeed wrong-doers? (49.11)

(١١) يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ ٱجۡتَنِبُواْ كَثِيرً۬ا مِّنَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعۡضَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِثۡمٌ۬‌ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُواْ وَلَا يَغۡتَب بَّعۡضُكُم بَعۡضًا‌ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُڪُمۡ أَن يَأۡڪُلَ لَحۡمَ أَخِيهِ مَيۡتً۬ا فَكَرِهۡتُمُوهُ‌ۚ وَٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ‌ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ۬ رَّحِيمٌ۬ (١٢)

O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it  . And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful. (49.12) Surah Al-Hujraat

How to Avoid Backbiting:Remember

  1. Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) also said:

“Who protects his tongue from unlawful utterances and his private parts from illegal sexual intercourse; I shall guarantee him entrance into Paradise.”

  1. Abu Mousa Al-Ash’aree narrated that Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:

“I asked the Messenger of Allah: Who is the best Muslim? The Messenger of Allah replied, “He is the one from whom Muslims are safe from the evil of his tongue and hands.”

 

Why some one does Back Biting:

  1. Grudge and angriness, b) Jealousy: c) To chat/Gossip:
  2. Taking revenge from the one e) Weakening the opponent:
  3. Exalting self through showing others’ defects: g) Keeping up with Dignity:

 

Backbiting is Permissible: (a) Presenting complaint to some official, (b) a person wants to do business/marriage, c) witness in the court,

 

Return the Rights of the Backbitten Person: Seek his forgiveness and also from Allah swt.

In Muslim, Prophet Muhammad PBUH said: “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.” Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” The

وَجَزَٲٓؤُاْ سَيِّئَةٍ۬ سَيِّئَةٌ۬ مِّثۡلُهَا‌ۖ فَمَنۡ عَفَا وَأَصۡلَحَ فَأَجۡرُهُ ۥ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ‌ۚ إِنَّهُ ۥ لَا يُحِبُّ ٱلظَّـٰلِمِينَ

(٤٠) سُوۡرَةُ الشّوریٰ

Let us repair relation and make our old friends in place of enemy, Bosom Friend

Surah Ash-Shura

The recompense for an evil is an evil like thereof, but whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allâh. Verily, He likes not the  wrong-doers (42.40)

وَلَمَن صَبَرَ وَغَفَرَ إِنَّ ذَٲلِكَ لَمِنۡ عَزۡمِ ٱلۡأُمُورِ (٤٣) سُوۡرَةُ الشّوریٰ

Surah Ash-Shura

And verily, whosoever shows patience and forgives that would truly be from the things recommended by Allâh. (42.43)

وَلَا تَسۡتَوِى ٱلۡحَسَنَةُ وَلَا ٱلسَّيِّئَةُ‌ۚ ٱدۡفَعۡ بِٱلَّتِى هِىَ أَحۡسَنُ فَإِذَا ٱلَّذِى بَيۡنَكَ وَبَيۡنَهُ ۥ عَدَٲوَةٌ۬ كَأَنَّهُ ۥ وَلِىٌّ حَمِيمٌ۬ (٣٤) سُوۡرَةُ فُصّلَت

The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better, then verily! he, between whom and you there was enmity,  as though he was a close friend. 41.34)

 

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